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Message no. 1
From: Drea O'Dare <dreaodare@*******.COM>
Subject: Re: Married (or not) Gamers
Date: Mon, 28 Sep 1998 11:48:26 PDT
>1) How many of us do have spouses/significant others who game?

Well, my bf games.....as do I.

>2) Do you participate in the same game/ different games than your
>Spouse/significant other? What problems/advantages have you found to
this?

Well, we have only played together twice. He's a munchkin, hopelessly
so. So I don't play with him. Since I only game over the IRC (No RL
groups around who'd take a chance on a female player, which is
annoying), and we don't have two computers just yet, so basically I
haven't had him playing in those games forced on me yet.

>3) Did you and your spouse/S.O. game before you met or did one of you
>introduce the other to the concept?

We both gamed before.

>4) How many marriages/permanent relationships out there can be directly
>attributed to gaming/Shadowrun?

I shudder to think of it.

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Message no. 2
From: Kama <kama@*******.NET>
Subject: Re: Married (or not) Gamers
Date: Mon, 28 Sep 1998 16:14:59 -0400
On Mon, 28 Sep 1998, Drea O'Dare wrote:

>
> >4) How many marriages/permanent relationships out there can be directly
> >attributed to gaming/Shadowrun?
>
> I shudder to think of it.
>

Gee . . . I didn't think we would be the only married couple to have met
through Shadowrun . . . I certainly didn't think that it was such a scary
concept either . . . after all a good GM is hard to find. Marry him and
you have lifetime of guaranteed quality gaming. :)

After that I guess I'll go ahead and answer my own questions (just in case
anybody else has found this interesting).

We both game (he brought the complete Shadowrun to the marriage, I brought
White Wolf) and have gamed for years (16 for me, about the same for him).

We do play in the same games and on the whole it has been a good thing. We
have an easy time playing to each others' characters when someone else GMs
and he knows how my mind works so it is easy to lay a trail if he wants
the characters to go in a certian direction. On the other hand, I have
often known more than my character, not only because I am a sounding
board/co-conspirator but also becuase I understand how his mind works. As
far as the other players go, their only complaint has to do with the
kissing that occurs whenever we break . . .

Finally, yes, Shadowrun really was a key element in the early part of our
relationship. An ex-boyfriend persuaded me that we should go try out the
Shadowrun game that this Blair guy was starting. (I had had two previous
bad experiences with Shadowrun due to terrible GMs and didn't want to try
it again). However, a good GM makes all the difference.

After a year and a half of playing we became good friends and when he
needed to move out of student housing (having just got his masters) I
offered him the spare room in my condo. I liked having him around full
time and started looking for excuses for him not to move out quite yet.
Eventually he figured it out and asked me out. (Note to Bandit: this was
the simplified version, I left out the Brain Tumor, the African Pygmy
Hedgehogs, the defaced copy of Crown of Swords and my grandmother's (stolen) diamond ring
- yours is not the
only crazy life.)

- Kama
Message no. 3
From: Dvixen <dvixen@********.COM>
Subject: Re: Married (or not) Gamers
Date: Tue, 29 Sep 1998 23:12:54 -0700
>1) How many of us do have spouses/significant others who game?

I do. (GM) and a set of my players are married.

>2) Do you participate in the same game/ different games than your
>Spouse/significant other? What problems/advantages have you found to
>this?

Yep. Never had a problem, amazing when you consider the knot of a
relationship my character (Celt) was in with a teammate (Caber) who was
played by another of the players who GF isn't in town to play.

Even after the BF I had at the time and I had split, we continued to game
together. Never noticed a problem, when we were both players, and then when
I was GMing. I'd like to think we did very nicely keeping our non gaming
issues out of the game.

It was terribly amusing each time he played his character just right, and
mine had nothing to do but threaten to kill his character. I'd have to say
it made for a very interesting group dynamic

Gaming with my flatmate of that time was another problem entirely.

>3) Did you and your spouse/S.O. game before you met or did one of you
>introduce the other to the concept?

*grin* We met on ShadowRN.

>4) How many marriages/permanent relationships out there can be directly
>attributed to gaming/Shadowrun?

Two in my group.


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Message no. 4
From: Mik & Caroline <legion@******.NET.AU>
Subject: Re: Married (or not) Gamers
Date: Thu, 1 Oct 1998 08:27:54 +1000
Dvixen wrote:
>
> >1) How many of us do have spouses/significant others who game?

My fiancee is one, plus another couple play in my group as well

> >2) Do you participate in the same game/ different games than your
> >Spouse/significant other? What problems/advantages have you found to
> >this?

hmm, currently, i run the SR game she plays in, and she's more gung-ho
than the rest. Then again, she also has more background knowledge than
the rest of the players.

She's running a Rifts game, that the 3 "spousal" players are involved
in.

as for problems... none really. The weirdest aspect is some of the
bribery offers i get from my fiancee over her PC. generally along the
lines of "if you let me have this, i'll give you _______ "
makes life fun.

> >3) Did you and your spouse/S.O. game before you met or did one of you
> >introduce the other to the concept?

i played for 10 years before i met her, and she played for around 2
years before. We met when i was working in a Trading/Collectable Card
ahop

> >4) How many marriages/permanent relationships out there can be directly
> >attributed to gaming/Shadowrun?

none, we were already partners before we gamed together

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